Welcome to COVIDSpeakEasy
We offer free online support groups for anyone who has lost their
life-partner or spouse due to COVID-19. We understand how difficult things are for you at the moment from first hand experience
“You understood my situation”
Set up in 2020, COVIDSpeakEasys are free, safe, confidential, and professionally-led online support groups for all COVID bereaved life-partners to share their experiences, doubts, grief and ask questions about life after their partner's death. This includes those who lost their partners through a COVID related suicide. We have been featured in the Guardian newspaper, the Independent and on CNN news. Here's our profile on welldoing.org.
SpeakEasy was initiated by Edwina fitzPatrick, whose normally healthy partner of 21 years died because of COVID in March. It was three days before the UK lockdown started. Most people had no idea what to say to her. There was a vacuum. A silence.
Since then, she has been supported by amazing friends and colleagues. Meeting with others who had lost their life-partners before COVID revealed that a different kind of conversation took place between the fellow bereaved. One that spanned the pragmatics of death certificates, money concerns, through to “do I feel OK to stay in the home that we shared together?” via funny anecdotes and memories. We spoke easily, sometimes tearfully about this, hence "SpeakEasy".
But Edwina also realised that COVID-related bereavements create unparalleled levels of shock, grief and trauma. The separation from your loved one is extraordinarily difficult at any time, but COVID makes things both difficult and bewildering. You are can’t visit them. The death is sudden and often unexpected – so shock is involved. You may well have had COVID yourself, being ill and self-isolating at the time of their death. You can’t have the usual gatherings to mark their life and give them an appropriate send off. You not only miss your darling’s physical demonstrations of love, but also the hugs and physical interaction that comes with their funeral/life celebration.
If you relate to any of this, the COVIDSpeakEasy online groups can help.